Saturday, November 10, 2018

Days Nine and Ten

Day 9 of 30 Days of Gratitude. I am grateful for civil discourse. It's harder to find these days--to pretend we're not a country divided would be disingenuous--but I still have hope if we can be civil to each other, if we can not call names or tell lies or purposefully hurt each other, we can come out on the other side.

Day 10 of 30 Days of Gratitude. As is kind of annoyingly obvious, I'm a quotes junkie. In the top three of my favorites is this one from A. A. Milne.
“What day is it?” asked Pooh.
“It’s today,” squeaked Piglet.
“My favorite day,” said Pooh.
I think I've used this before on gratitude days, although I'm not sure. Whether I have or not, I'm grateful for today. For another chance to get it right, to be kind to someone, and to laugh really hard.

Thursday, November 8, 2018

Days Seven and Eight

Day 7 in 30 Days of Gratitude. I'm grateful to those who try to Do the Right Thing and when it doesn't work out for them, they try again.

Day Eight of 30. Today I'm grateful for editors. For ones who edit my books and my column, for ones who are also friends who clarify my blog posts--hey, Nan Reinhardt--and for other friends who have to make sense of my talk-to-texting, which makes my conversation even more inane than it might be otherwise. Any goodness I may have achieved as a writer is because of the goodness they've pulled from between the lines.

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

She is not amazed... @Debby Myers


Every six months as part of my MS treatment, I have an infusion of Ocrevus. It’s the newest drug to treat Primary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis. As new as it is, scientists and doctors will tell you that you need it. They say it can stop the progression of the disease and limit attacks. The only way to measure the drug’s success is through MRI’s to look at your lesions to see if there is any activity or any newones. Also done every six months, my MRI showed nothing had changed.

I am stable, and when I hear that I am amazed―I mean in the true definition. Which brings me to something I’d like to share with you today.

The nurse who administered my infusion was really a pleasant person.
She asked me a number of times if I was feeling ok or if I needed
anything. When it was over she said to me, “You did amazing!”
The dictionary meaning of amazing is to affect with great wonder &
astonishment. So, did I really do amazing? Was she really amazed? I’m
not sure. I don’t think my infusion affected the nurse with great wonder
or astonishment. It was a strange pick – you know, of all the words to
choose from. Why didn’t she say, “You tolerated this well?” That’s really
what I did. Or “You didn’t complain” which means to express feelings of pain or
dissatisfaction. Let’s face it—we don’t use our own English language in
the right way.

But back to the word amazing. It has become increasingly
popular. When you hear politicians speak, they tell you they have
amazing ideas. When an actor or singer accepts an award, they say they
feel amazing. When you hear someone describe something beautiful,
they will say it looks amazing. Do these things really affect us with
wonder and astonishment? If so, the politician’s amazing ideas translate
to “they have great wonder?” Is he wondering if they’ll work? Maybe,
but wouldn’t it be better for the politician to actually describe the ideas
as they are rather than amazing? Then there’s the actress that accepts
the award―is she astonished that she won? Like she wasn’t expecting
to, she wondered? I just think the actress would have been more suited
to say it was mind-blowing―meaning intensely affecting the mind and
emotions. Or when expressing feelings, use of the words emotion and
affect would be more in tune. And lastly, if it’s beautiful, it must be
amazing, right? Why can’t beautiful things remain beautiful, not
necessarily amazing.

I’m to the point where I just hate to hear anyone use it. Everything is
not always amazing. As a matter of fact, the use of the word for me
means I have truly experienced something that astonished me―filled
me with wonder, as the definition says. I just don’t like that amazing has
become overused. Maybe if it wasn’t, I would feel differently. The word
just seems to have lost its luster and its impact.

I challenge each of you to keep a log for day, marking down how many
times someone says the word. I did it one day before I sat down to
write this…you know, because I don’t have much to do these days.

Since I was going to my grandson’s birthday party, it was a great time
for my observations. I’d say there were 30 people there. I didn’t do a
great job of counting how many times I heard the expression once I got to 20, but it was in excess of that and the party only lasted two hours.

So, when I hear people say, “it’s amazing, even though it doesn’t
usually apply, I just say, “Yes, it’s amazing.”

Monday, November 5, 2018

Day Five of Gratitude

Day Five--4th year in a row.
"While I don't talk a lot on FB about either my religion or my politics (you're welcome), I'm thankful for my freedom to practice both in the way I see fit. I flinch on almost a daily basis at the names being bandied back and forth between differing factions--I will never understand taking pleasure in being hurtful--but am glad to live where you won't get arrested for disagreeing."
I have to add to that this year, though, by saying I don't think disagreement makes it okay to lie about someone--I don't care who it is. I know that when I was a little kid, I had only a glancing acquaintance with telling the truth. I am grateful to know better now.

Sunday, November 4, 2018

Days 3 and 4...

Day 3 of Gratitude. I’m grateful for sleeping well, early morning everything, and never having to set an alarm.

Day 4 of 30 Days of Gratitude. I'm thankful for relationships, especially, admittedly, for the good ones that last and enrich and bring joy to your life. But also for ones that end or where you get hurt or that are as bumpy as an Indiana gravel road, because relationships are where the love is. The learning. The growth. The laughter when you need it the most.

Friday, November 2, 2018

Day Two of 30 Days of Gratitude

Day Two of 30 Days of Gratitude. Last night I got an email from one of our grandsons, asking for my "skills as an author" in proofreading a paper for him. He signed the email, as he always does, "Your favorite grandchild, Skyler Wilson." Today I am so grateful to have our Magnificent Seven favorite grandchildren.


Thursday, November 1, 2018

30 Days of Gratitude - Day One

Day One of 30 Days of Gratitude. Today I am grateful for people who deliver things. Buzz, the mailman. The UPS man who offered to carry my new printer inside. The FFA girl from down the road who will bring our box of Clementines soon. Although we don't use their services, I'm grateful for people who deliver Meals on Wheels, who pick up and deliver others to appointments when for whatever reason they can't get themselves there. For medical personnel who deliver babies, the most precious things of all. For people who deliver both good news and bad with empathy and honesty. For the friends on Facebook and in person who deliver cheerful good mornings whether they're feeling cheerful or not.

Darlene Fredette March 28, 2023